Poetry & Parenting – The Writer

Poems and Parenting

Since yesterday’s poem was devoted to my friend’s son, I thought it fitting to address today’s piece to daughters and so we have Richard Wilbur’s piece, The Writer.

Wilbur has written many very beautiful poems.  He is one of the few contemporary poets known for form and meter.  His work is remarkable for a pretty strict adherence to formal elements, but stays accessible and these are poems you want to turn to again and again for the meaning and the music.  As a poet, it’s very difficult to write with this kind of depth and clarity. Most of us would be satisfied with just one of these qualities. Wilbur is that kind of writer you have to sort of hate because he makes it look so easy.

I chose this piece because of my girls.  Izzy could very possibly end up a writer.  Amalia has recently declared that she doesn’t hate poetry anymore.  She spent her last day of spring break drawing.  It’s something she goes back to again and again.  My girls have many interests and abilities, it’s impossible to know what they’ll end up doing.  But maybe one of them will end up an artist.

I also chose this poem because I want to be the daughter in the piece.  I grew up in a loving home.  I’m close with my parents and my sisters.  They encourage me, even though I suspect they think I’m slightly, amusingly touched at times.  I chose this piece because we all want to be seen, perhaps especially for those crazy passions.

The Writer

by Richard Wilbur

In her room at the prow of the house
Where light breaks, and the windows are tossed with linden,
My daughter is writing a story.

I pause in the stairwell, hearing
From her shut door a commotion of typewriter-keys
Like a chain hauled over a gunwale.

Young as she is, the stuff
Of her life is a great cargo, and some of it is heavy.
I wish her a lucky passage.

But now it is she who pauses,
As if to reject my thought and its easy figure.
A stillness greatens, in which

The whole house seems to be thinking,
And then she is at it again with a bunched clamor
Of strokes, and again is silent.

I remember the dazed starling
Which was trapped in that very room, two years ago;
How we stole in, lifted a sash

And retreated, not to affright it;
And how for a helpless hour, through the crack of the door,
We watched the sleek, wild, dark

And iridescent creature
Batter against the brilliance, drop like a glove
To the hard floor, or the desk-top,

And wait then, humped and bloody,
For the wits to try it again; and how our spirits
Rose when, suddenly sure,

It lifted off from a chair-back,
Beating a smooth course for the right window
And clearing the sill of the world.

It is always a matter, my darling,
Of life or death, as I had forgotten.  I wish
What I wished you before, but harder.

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Poetry & Parenting – The Gardens

Poetry:Parenting Project - Robert Funge

Today is the first day of my Poetry & Parenting Project celebrating National Poetry Month.  I’ll be posting a poem that has some sort of something to do with parenting each day (Monday -Friday) for the month of April.

We’re starting off with a poem by my friend, Robert Funge.  Robert passed away at age 81 last Friday after a five week stay in the hospital.  He lived and loved poetry.  Over the past ten years, Robert and I had plenty of time to discuss, debate and ruminate on everything from great poetry to bad writing (our own and that of others), politics, the pleasure of a good glass of port and family.

I met Chris, Robert’s son, for the first time at the VA Hospital when I went up to visit.  Robert was so very pleased to have us meet.  I spent time this past week with Chris as we packed up Robert’s belongings.  The desk was my job.  One of the best finds was a manuscript for a chapbook that no one knew Robert had started putting together.  It’s titled, The World Like a Spoon and it’s for Chris.

Here’s a piece called The Gardens from that unpublished chapbook.

The Gardens

With a thumb not as green as his visions, he garnered
less than he sowed.
Paying as little heed to his gardens as he to my poems
we went along
fighting aphids and adjectives, snails and pace,
he tending gardens,
reaping his bitter lettuce and dwarfed corn,
sometimes like a prize
tomatoes and roses as red as the ground ever gave,
while I glossed a past
with frail words, passing sentences on myself
bitter and dwarfed often.

It’s all January weeds now, small wire meshes
encircling grassplots
once fertile with climbing fruit. I harvest
this garden of words
circling someone I’d been too close to know,
a son who sowed
more than he reaped. Away at college
he plants new seeds
in the rich Fresno soil, and studies Philosophy
with a major in History,
the study of mankind’s reaping less than it sowed.
He is missed.

 

Robert Funge 1931 – 2013.
You are missed.

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Poetry:Parenting Project

My Father's Blue Cardigan by Anne CarsonIt’s almost National Poetry Month.  Yesterday, after posting the Larkin poem, I decided that for the month of April I will post a new poem each day (except weekends) that has something to do with parenting.  Be warned- it could be a very loose connection to parenting.

If you have a poem on parenting that you love and would like to share next month, send it to me at deborah@betweenpages.org.  Send along a little note about why the poem means something to you, when you first read it or who shared it with you.  I’ll do my best to include it.

Here’s a poem by Anne Carson that I just discovered this morning.  It’s a heartwrenching look at her father’s Alzheimer’s.  I was surprised to see this poem was by Carson. I associate her work with turning Greek mythology on it’s head.  The poem is incredibly personal.  Try reading it out loud if you have a minute.  The music of the last three stanzas carries us along on the train.

Father’s Old Blue Cardigan

Now it hangs on the back of the kitchen chair
where I always sit, as it did
on the back of the kitchen chair where he always sat.

I put it on whenever I come in,
as he did, stamping
the snow from his boots.

I put it on and sit in the dark.
He would not have done this.
Coldness comes paring down from the moonbone in the sky.

His laws were a secret.
But I remembered the moment at which I knew
he was going mad inside his laws.

He was standing at the turn of the driveway when I arrived.
He had on the blue cardigan with the buttons done up all the way
to the top.
Not only because it was a hot July afternoon

but the look on his face -
as a small child who has been dressed by some aunt early in the
morning
for a long trip

on cold trains and windy platforms
will sit very straight at the edge of his seat
while the shadows like long fingers

over the haystacks that sweep past
keep shocking him
because he is riding backwards.

By Anne Carson



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